Language is such an imperfect way of communicating, even at the best of times, Don.   I agree that we all have an onus to be as clear as possible with verbal (incl. written) communication.

But I think that we also have an onus to 'check out' with others about what they mean (if we're interested) rather than assuming.

I know that from the feedback I've had from my posts, I've had a few surprises (is that really what he/she thought I was saying?).   And I thought I was clear. But.......again, we all have our own ways of presenting and receiving information.