No issue with you on anything you just posted.

However.

Those caught in the crossfire of "what is an atheist and is it militant?" tend to be those for whom religion is irrelevant as well as those who actively conspire to thwart it's advance.

If a God Botherer knocks on the door of someone offering happy enlightenment and gets told to bugger off or the hounds will be released. .. This is not militant anti religion but a polite wish not to imagine those without faith are interested in it.

Quoting philosophers and debates on what constitutes theism and atheism misses the point. Unless you give religion some thought in the first place and make a subsequent stance, no label applies. I can play a banjo (confession time) and my mate who can't calls me a banjoist. As he can't play one and has never shown interest, could I call him an abanjoist?

It would seem odd. Especially if some ignorant bugger tries saying his lack of interest was down to trauma at some young age. ..