"...was I wrong to get upset when someone trolled and attacked me..."?

Not necessarily... it's how one expresses being upset that drives the debate/discussion. Not remembering that situation, gnu, I can't comment on it specifically.

In all differences of opinion (to use the most neutral phrase I can think of), 94.8264% of the tone of the thread is related to how many posters toss in a "You are a *****" instead of just responding with an opinion about the issue rather than the person making it.
   I realize that some folks become very incensed and indignant on some topics when their ideology or favorite 'concern' is at issue, but the very fact OF being highly indignant often seems to degrade their ability to rationally make their points.

What IS it about the idea that "I ain't gonna take that shit offa NObody, and I'm gonna tell 'em so!" that controls the basic approach of otherwise rational folk?

"Oh wad the gift the giftie gie us, to see oursels as ithers see us."