Claire - Maggie & I have played for years at care homes, sunshine clubs etc. etc. Most of those have at least covered our costs in travel etc. However, because we regard (most) mudcatters as friends we have not yet met. we would willingly help you if we were a bit closer (Hampshire). I think you probably have a lot of friends here, so hopefully someone can help. Check out the points made above about an entertainment budget as I know most homes have one.
Pete