Hi,

Most of the answers approach the question as if it were about "THE singaround". Instead it's about "A singaround", and its mores may be different from those of "another signaround" or "your singaround".

At our sing/play-around, we make effort to perform well, but often we'll do things we're still working on, just for the joy of sharing. Not that we encourage sloppy play, but I guess we do encourage reaching upward.
I think the most common forms of unasked-for help at our group are: Playing along to ease the performace, and making suggestions about how to make things easier, stronger, etc.. Even if you're, to you, the best performer at your gather, would you turn away from advice to improve? Nearly anyone will at least try out an alternative (though some may do so intending to to demonstrate that it doesn't work).
But still, that's just at our sing/play-around. Yours will be different.


In other news:
- There's a certain insincerity in behaving differently because of who is the organiser/promotor/etc., though in the end that's everyone's own choice.
- Personally, I'd say "Shame, ..." is a rather improper way to voice you opinion of a performance, but getting up in the middle of a song is definitely not how my mother brought me up. And that holds for talking about someone when his back is turned as well.
- Thanks for the tip on using a pitch-pipe. Though I have one for the occasional absolute tuning of my guitar at home, for some reason I hadn't so far made the jump they could be used for singing.
- But I don't like oysters; why would I want a world-sized one?

Bye
                                                                Mysha