The problem with all of this, is that all the conversation, all the talk, all the discussion, seems to be about the performer.

What about the audience?

Is the performer who shuffles his/her music, fiddles with the music stand, reads from a notebook, forgets the words, goes back to the beginning, stumbles, mumbles, etc., concerned with the audience? Doesn't sound like it. More like they're totally concerned with themselves.

It doesn't matter whether you're at a club, a singaround or a session. If you don't think about the reaction you're going to get from other people, then you're actually self-absorbed, uncaring about other people - selfish.

Perhaps a slightly extreme observation, but one worth thinking about. If you can't bring something to the audience, then why are you there?