I think it was Nietzsche. And I think McGrath hit it. The indifference is the worst.

The pain and anger spawned by something as innocuous as this thread show how much it mattered, or should matter. The personal conflicts and paradoxes engendered by the War and its aftermath demand a resolution that, for a lot, has never happened. What's needed is a recognition that all that emotion is there. Its real. A lot of people do deal with it (or do a good job hiding it away.) All deserve support. Not condemnation or pity or false sympathy or rationalizations to neatly compartmentalize the War.

Hiding from intense emotion, hoping it will just go away, is all to common. To paraphrase, healing takes a community.

Its one of our jobs and one a lot of us don't do all that well. A lot more don't even bother.

Regards

John