Thank you, Maggie, for starting this. Tom wrote obits for altogether too many of our friends, but I guess I'll have to write his. But not tonight.

Thank you all so much for the outpouring of condolences, great memories, tributes, hugs, love and comfort both here at Mudcat and at Facebook. The hardest thing for me right now is knowing that I can't read all of these posts to Tom.

I'm reading here and at Facebook right now, but I won't be posting much for a little while. Maybe tomorrow. I'm...I'm...I don't know what I am. I'm tired, relieved, teary, laughing at good memories, talking to the cats, making lists, but most of all, grateful that Tom had a gentle, beautiful death surrounded by friends and music. I am so, so grateful for our many friends.

I need some quiet time tonight...to read, absorb, let the tears wash some of the cares and worries out of my system...

I've never been a widow before. And they forgot to give me a script... But I have a wealth of friends.

Linn