I dunno, Eliza -

I think most of us have "a great deal of preoccupation with sex and sexual feelings," and most of us occasionally have a hard time figuring out what to do about it. I'm happily married, but I've been bothered by "crushes" off and on over the years.

In the last fifty years, the Catholic Church has published reams of official documents about the sacredness and beauty and joy of sex between married persons. I think other religious groups have done the same, and I've even seen some writings in a religious context about the sacredness of sex between lovers whether married or not, whether heterosexual or homosexual - if there is fidelity between the two.

I don't expect churches to approve sex outside of marriage (that's pushing the issue just a bit too far), but I think you'll find that very few churches have published much recently to condemn it. That kind of stuff is from another age, and only from conservative extremists in the current day.

-Joe-