I am sure that services in the Catholic churches aren't obsessed with sex if those of you in the know say they aren't. But in the context of this thread, the church is asking its members questions to, amongst other things, work on its image.

Ask many non Catholics about the image and you will find it is about opposing contraception, telling young boys not to be tempted to masturbate and accommodating Anglican clergy whose misogyny precludes them to work for a woman.

The reality of the day to day work of a local church gets drowned in the message.

Exactly. Whatever the message honest Catholics want to put across, the Church, from where I'm sittin', retains its control-over-sex image - and does very little to counteract that image, which speaks volumes to non-Catholics who think about it. As for church services not being obsessed with sex, well that has a disingenuous ring about it. Church services are attended by children, and I suppose an awful lot of Catholics would object to sexual matters being aired from the pulpit in front of them. Not only that, a celibate fellow wearing a frock is hardly going to command much respect from an audience of mostly married people if he starts issuing advice about their sex lives.