so many questions..how long has this been going on? How were things 'before'? Has it been discussed between you much, or is it a non-topic? What age is SO, and are meds involved..(I took an anti-depressant several years ago, and my libido dropped off the bottom of the scale..made me depressed...quit taking it..)...and there is BIG difference between 'no desire' and 'no desire FOR desire'..