GUEST,Guest I can relate to your story. When my husband and I were having intimacy problems I wanted to seek counseling. He felt I was the one with the problem and that we did not need counseling. This intimacy issue went on and on for too long. I knew we had serious problems and that my 'not in the mood' problem was just a symptom of long standing issues not addressed in our marriage.
We finally went for counseling during our seperation but by that point it was clear we should proceed with a divorce. Had we gone for counseling earlier in our marriage, I am not sure if things would have worked out but I do think it would have been the wiser thing to do.

Bonnie