If a spouse is drinking too much or on medication for depression and that in turn is causing problems with libido, you can blame the drinking and/or anti-depressants but I would dig deeper. Why would a spouse be doing these things? Is it because there are underlying issues in the marriage that need addressing? Or personal issues that need to be look at individually.

Money issues can affect a person's libido. Maybe there are issues underneath the money that are even bigger.

If you are unhappy with your marital sex life and you want things to change, issues at hand must be willing to be looked at.

Bonnie