All of the above advice is excellent. And it's true that one person may just be "wired" for less and the other for more. For you, having friends to talk it over, even if only this way and only here, anonymously, can be a help. (I can vouch for Allan C having a great shoulder to cry on!) But it sounds as though money stress (yes, that can have a powerful dampening effect!!), work stress, and alcohol may be some of the outward causes. Can you go to a counselor? Alone? A good one can help you learn a whole lot and you can gain a lot more perspective on your life and relationship than we can offer here. Take care, dear GFOR, and let us know how things work out.