a classic example of that which happens on internet discussion forums, eight or nine reasonable posts,then someone personalises the thread by bringing in a post from elsewhere, that has the result of flaming.
I was trying to have a reasonable OBJECTIVE DISCUSSION,trying to talk about it hypothetically.
here is your answer, it is possible to say fuck off to someone to their face,in such a tone that it is not offensive, you use a light hearted jokey tone, body language can make it clear you are light hearted or joking, all that is missing on the net, even if you use emoticons, that is my point entirely