I have been in several bands in my life,and it seems without fail there is always one asshole.If you want to have fun with the music (which is,after all,the reason for doing it.You can make better money holding the "SLOW" sign at construction sites)you must get rid of this person.Even if you suffer in musical ability.I started a thread not long ago about "cheating" with a new group,an experience I found exciting and loaded with creative possibilities.It fell apart because of the AHF...asshole factor.My old band who has been together on and off for 14 years is a very simpatico group...not the most talented,but we like to hang together.We are reaching an interesting point though...as we play out more often,the limitations of one particular member are becoming more obvious.But so far,because of the "boy's club" atmosphere of this band,replacement,or even criticism (unless cloaked in humor) are not options.I reckon there's no perfect world when it comes to musical groups.