I'll second what My guru always said said. I found Tom (Curmudgeon) after I extricated myself from my first marriage which lasted (sort of) for ten years, and I swore I would never be stupid enough to marry again. I was adamantly NOT looking...even for an enjoyable companion. Then I went to a Christmas party at a recording studio and met Tom...and the rest is history.

In my experience, the best friendship/companionship/lover/whatever arrives when you least expect it and definitely are not searching for it.

Continue going to places where you enjoy what's going on and there will be new people with like tastes. Don't turn down opportunities to be social, but go because you enjoy the company and activity. The right person will find YOU.

I lost Tom a mere six months ago which means it's like yesterday. I'm not even THINKING about thinking about another companion on this crazy journey through life. But who knows what might happen in the future?

And if I don't, that's okay, too. I have a lot of friends (of all ages) and romance is not required. (Or, at this point, even desired.) I like living by myself. Not sure I'd ever find someone else who could put up with me being me and sharing a domicile besides.

Linn