Don't know about the first post - can't quite understand the point being made.

The old time fake apology you reference, Mrrzy, is one I have a different take on. "I'm sorry you got upset" is not a fake apology.

It is not an apology at all, and not intended to be.

It is an expression of regret.

If I say something mean or demeaning to another person with the intention of hurting or demeaning them, I owe an apology. If I disagree with another person and express that disagreement appropriately, I do not owe an apology should they be offended that I disagree. I may still regret that they operate from a place or paradigm that results in them feeling offended. But I am not responsible for that place or paradigm that they inhabit and which leads them to feel offended. That is their responsibility. Not mine. I don't owe them an apology. I can still regret they are offended.