Well, Musket, regardless of its acceptance in certain circles, it is a crude, and, to me, disrespectful characterisation of a certain section of our community. It has discriminatory overtones because we do not (at least not commonly) use primitive initialisms of that sort for women who have sex with men or women who have sex with women or for either who have sex with both. The only one I've seen used here is MSM. It grates because of its crudeness (if you're going to initialise it, why not MWHSWM?) and the lazy way it's used by two of our resident homophobes. "Gay men" will do nicely for me, without the quotes. Being gay is a way of life. Having sex is what you do occasionally. And gay men is only two syllables when you say it. I'm all for economy.