Steve, I believe that marriage for most people is primarily about the raising of family....a lot of people, even here don't bother till the first child arrives, then the commitments are made.

No poison no agenda, just facts. Of course there are those who need some verification of commitment to one another, but I have never felt the need of that and I do not believe it works or is beneficial especially if the religious aspect is missing.

Marriage is about the whole family not "self"