The Mudcat Café TM
Thread #157075   Message #3705469
Posted By: wysiwyg
30-Apr-15 - 10:20 AM
Thread Name: BS: Black lives matter - Freddie Gray
Subject: RE: BS: Black lives matter - Freddie Gray
Since it is a well known fact that few if any Mudcatters are people of the global majority, to say this themselves, I'm posting this request from Black friends, with which I agree... I'm pleased to say that I have not read a lot of the things referenced below, but are you wondering what to say when you hear them IRL?

Dear white friends: I need you to respect what Black America is feeling right now


Dear White America,

It is somewhat strange to address this to you, given that I strongly identify with many aspects of your culture and am half-white myself. Yet, today is another day you have forced me to decide what race I am — and, as always when you force me — I fall decidedly into "Person of Color."

Every comment or post I have read today voicing some version of disdain for the people of Baltimore — "I can't understand" or "They're destroying their own community" or "Destruction of Property!" or "Thugs" — tells me that many of you are not listening. I am not asking you to condone or agree with violence. I just need you to listen. You don't have to say anything if you don't want to, but instead of forming an opinion or drawing a conclusion, please let me tell you what I hear [from Baltimore]:

I hear hopelessness
I hear oppression
I hear pain
I hear internalized oppression
I hear despair
I hear anger
I hear poverty

If you are not listening, not exposing yourself to unfamiliar perspectives, not watching videos, not engaging in conversation, then you are perpetuating white privilege and white supremacy. It is exactly your ability to not hear, to ignore the situation, that is a mark of your privilege. People of color cannot turn away. Race affects our lives every day. We must consider it all the time, not just when it is convenient.

As a person of color, even if you are privileged your whole life, as I have been, you cannot escape from the shade of your skin. Being a woman defines me; coming from a relatively affluent background defines me; my sexual orientation, my education, my family and my job define me. Other than being a woman, every single one of those distinctions gives me privilege in our society. Yet, even with all that privilege, people still treat me differently.

For most of my childhood, I refused to allow race to be my most defining feature. I actually chose for most of my childhood to refuse race as my most defining feature. But I found that a very hard position to maintain, given the way the world interacts with me and the people I love. Because I have to worry about my brother and my cousins getting stopped by the police. Because people react to my wonderful, kind, intelligent father differently, depending on whether he's wearing a suit or sweat pants. Race has defined the way I see the world like no other characteristic has.

Julia Blount
(This post originally appeared on Julia Blount's Facebook page.)