I'm easily confused, so perhaps you could explain a couple of points:

So, the swmbo and I ...   What does "swmbo" srtand for?

If the hosts are providing the food, they can limit it to vegetarian/vegan by what they choose to serve. Why do they have to specify "no dead animals"? Are they expecting guests to bring their own?

Does the "no dead animals" restriction stretch to leather shoes and the like?

Finally, I can follow the discussion of eating habits, but where does the second half of the thread title come in?

DC