I'm sorry to disagree with bflat, but, the fact is no one can hurt you..no one can make you happy. That is strictly up to you. As Shakespere said "Nothing is good or bad, thinking makes them so." If a good friend tells me I'm full of shit, I will probably laugh. If someone I dont like says the same thing, I will retort. Same words, different thought process. Two and a half years ago, I lost the love of my life. I was extremely upset, but, now, I see her once in a while, and see how she interacts with her new husband, and I thing "Some things never change" and, I smile. She didn't hurt me...she did what she had to do, and I decided that it hurt.