"Of course you would not.
Nor wound anyone including Ake, and Ake is on good and friendly terms with folk he knows to be gay."

How do I know that they are on good terms with him, Keith? Do they know he calls them promiscuous perverts? I have every sympathy for anyone suffering a personal tragedy but what does it have to do with this discussion? There seems to be a lot of smokescreens going up here.