I couldn't care less if the people serving me in a restaurant are men or women. But I cannot see any reason why they should not be referred to as waiters or waitresses, so long as they get paid the same.

I take it is is still ok to refer to females lions as lionesses, and male ducks as drakes...

But I'm not sure there is any logical basis for regarding sex distinctions in terms for jobs as unacceptable, but not applying that to the term "men" and "women".

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