Steve, Would parables be better for you..ducks flying grotty slipper.
      No riddles, in all seriousness, People who can breathe through any pre conceived notions and their shit and genuinly interested can see this. What you're asking me is, how can I see this without experiencing it. I can't currently help you personally with that.I've tried and failed. If you relax go looking you will see what I have pointed to.Working stuff out yourself is far healthier than being told something. Try it I'm sure Carl Sagan would've approved. ;-)