Eliza, do you have anywhere near you (or reasonably convenient) which caters to people with disabilities? You wouldn't be the only woman with a similar problem, and I wouldn't mind betting that there could be a cunning little gadget which could help. Even a store selling medical aids (gadgets to help put on shoes and socks come to mind) may have something.

A song from my childhood was "Do your ears hang low......." - for a giggle, replace 'ears' with whatever you like, and swing your way through life.