Mary, I was not trying to be rude. Had I been, you would have known it. Perhaps my question was not phrased in the manner you would prefer but it was an honest and serious one.
You are not the only person on this thread who has posted as "GUEST". You managed to sign your name this time so I suppose that the previous post was an oversight.
As far as my gender is concerned, if you will review a few of my other posts, you will find that I frequently refer to my wife "The Memsahib".

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