From old ballads to modern pop songs, the idea circulates that if a man loves (lusts) a woman, but she doesn't care for him, then she's bad. Silly idea!

I quit listening to pop music a long time ago, but fairly recent versions of this are

Elvis's - Don't Be Cruel,
Beatles' - Ticket to RIde, You Won't See Me
Somebody - Delilah. He kills her. What a hero.

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Back in the 1970's, my husband was acquainted with a guy who actually did kill himself over a girl. He told her that if she didn't accept him, he would kill himself. She didn't accept him, he did kill himself, and in my opinion she had a lucky, if costly, escape.

This is probably what really happened with Barbara Allen.