I'm sorry Alison that I got lost in other thoughts and did not address your problem directly. I am, with some amount of certainty, sure of who is bothering you. I have six female musician friends at Pal Talk that he has acted the same way with and I am believe there are others that I do not know of. The best way to deal with this particular one is to totally ignore him. Within a week or so he will move on to another female who will have to endure for a while. If you acknowledge him in any way he sees it as encouragement on your part and it will just take that much longer before he goes away, though he never seems to completely. I have told all that complain about him to me to take the matter to Pal Talk administration because they not only keep track of how many times a person has been bounced, they also keep track of how many times an admin. has bounced people. Considering the fact that I have my own room and help in 8 others that can become a bit of a problem. I never like to bounce someone but if they are disrupting the room too much I am left with no choice. It is always best if the offended party take it up with administration rather than a third party having to step in.