Lack of confidence is ok. Shyness is actually sort-of appealing, if the guy just lets himself be awkward, and doesn't run from you because he thinks you're judging him........ Lack of basic self esteem is totally not ok.
Shyness is a different thing from low self esteem, but is often mistaken for it.

Putting everybody else on a pedestal, and yourself way down in the mud, is not ok. (And it's not shyness!)

Seriously, get a life! And I don't mean that in a bad way. Just start treating yourself like you're a greeat guy to hang out with. Make yourself wonderful meals, because you're special too.

You know what the problem is? Perfectionism. People either think that they have to be perfect, or they think that everybody ELSE has to be perfect, or both. And that is just a sign that, no matter how much you may WANT to be in a relationship, you are not ready for it yet.

You know what the other problem is? In this society, people consider it RUDE to think that one's own self is special. Like it subtracts from other people's brilliance or something! As if nobody else can be special if one person is special already..... That's just totally dumb! If you really think you're "all that", you spread specialness to all the people around you. (HEL-lo!)

And you know what else? There are always going to be people who don't like you. There are also always going to be people who really like you. Who are you going to hang around with? More importantly, whose opinion are you going to care about?

L I V E   W I T H   I T !!!!!!!!!!!!!