What could we say, indeed.

Those of us who have first-hand experience with both trauma and grief, will remember occasions when trauma blended with grief, and the blend was so intense as to make the whole more than the sum of its parts. It really defies description, the feeling is a devastation.

Our simply being present for the bereaved survivor, is, already, something that will make itself felt. Our presence cannot change what brought the person to this pass. And projecting a future outcome does only so much, and no more. Being present with the grieving survivor, respecting the mourning that must be experienced now -- this we can do, and our actions of being and doing must speak for us.

I don't have anything novel and original to say, but I mean sincerely what I say. Hope our Mudcat member/colleague knows that he is not alone at this time.