Magaret, as usual, I agree with you. There are pluses and minuses to Paltalk vis a vis Hearme. I have had some great nights recently on Paltalk, though, enjoying both Mudcatters and others. When I get a "ding" that someone wants to send me a PM or invite me to another room, I simply see who it is, and decide whether to accept or decline, and that is my advice. If the message is from someone you don't "know" then simply decline. As far as creeps targeting women...bounce, bounce, bounce.
I'm in San Diego this week, but look forward to hearing you all again soon.