To websites, yeah, but e-mail?The reality is, for a variety of reasons, I get treated differently here, and not just by stinky poopers. I've decided to just deal with that, in practical ways.
Here's the concern I am concerned about, and I will say it here knowing some of the site volunteers check these HTML threads from time to time and thus may see it while stinky poopers may not. A couple of the flamers and some others as well have made remarks to me offForum that I am trying to build some kind of power base. I'm not. I just prefer that some things go offCat to discuss confidentially.
A lot of people write me privately about tough stuff they are dealing with. It's been cumbersome each time this realtionship begins-- PMs till I get through to them that it has to be e-mail for it to work for me. I want to make it easier for that contact to occur as well as make it get to e-mail from the beginning.
I also want to do what I can to limit the potential for the off-topic stuff to get out of hand and the flames begin again. If people can just click to me when they get hot, or when they want to plunge into a talk about God, instead of posting something that will cause trubble... If the click is as easy as posting... And I don't like PMs, at all, anymore. First, when I get fed up with Mudcat and take a break, I don't like to leave a PM hanging that may have been time-sensitive, and I don't like having to come check PM's when Mudcat has made my blood boil. Also, no file saving easily, no original message attached-- I write to too many people now to remember exactly what I said or they said last.
So it's a practical thing, after a lot of thought and talking with people I respect who also have been flamebait. But I think it may seem to some like I am trying to draw people off Mudcat, and except for the one or two confessed addictees-- who asked to have some help cutting back-- that ain't so. But those feelings are part of what is out there that I have decided to deal with as a reality.
Opinions welcome, since I asked, here for all to wrangle or in e-mail.