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Thread #162491   Message #3867429
Posted By: Joe Offer
21-Jul-17 - 03:14 AM
Thread Name: BS: Clerical Abuse of Children
Subject: RE: BS: Catholic Abuse of Children
Ake, if they had amended the celibacy rule, I'd be a priest today. I'm very active in church activities, and people often think I AM a priest. I applied again for the priesthood in 1996 after I got a divorce and annulment, but they weren't interested. At the time, my diocese was recruiting priests almost exclusively from third world countries. I think that all this will eventually force the Catholic Church to restructure the function of priesthood, perhaps into a less elevated and more temporary position - but it won't happen in my lifetime.

Ake, you say that the Catholic Church fails in not vetting the men who enter the priesthood, but I described above the "extreme vetting" process I went through in the seminary.

I think the Catholic Church fails by setting priests apart from real life, in a position where actual human beings cannot live. I can't tell you how many priests I know who are profoundly unhappy. The only happy ones seem to be the ones in religious orders who live in community. There are wonderful men and women in my congregation who would make excellent priests. I'm sure I could pick twenty who would do a better job than any of the priests who were assigned to my parish in the 15 years I have been there.

And no, I don't think this thread was started as an affront to me. It's a legitimate question that ought to be discussed seriously.

Oh, another thing. I have no strong prejudice against homosexuals, but I do feel uncomfortable around heterosexuals and homosexuals who seem to sexualize every moment. There was a time before the "purge" in my seminary, when the atmosphere had a sexual charge to it. There were times I felt I was the only straight guy in the place. That's not true - there was a heterosexual majority there, but the heterosexuals weren't out being sexy every moment. It was a very uncomfortable feeling. I hope I've been able to say that without being offensive to anyone's sexual orientation, because it's not about whether one is hetero or homosexual. It's about "hitting on" people all the time, instead of just interacting as friends and letting a sexual attraction grow natually if it does.