Ok, this one is pure snobbishness. People can live their lives how they choose and it is nothing to do with me.

Still ...

A relative has wanted to go to Cuba for a long time, has been saving for three years and is there now. She is staying in a beach resort which is almost indistinguishable from such resorts anywhere in the world and has just facebooked that she had a great Japanese teppanyaki last night.

What are you doing? You seem to be doing all you can to avoid Cuba!