Btw. Look at the latest legislation on domestic abuse. I think you will find that even the slow moving judiciary have agreed that abuse is not just physical or name calling. There are many kinds of abuse far more subtle including trying to belittle people or walking roughshod over their feelings. At least 2 of the people now banned tried that tactic and got what they deserved. Sadly the biggest culprit is still allowed to get away with it. And no, it is not you. Far from it.

DtG