Forgive me I am not adding flames to the fire here. Jon is quite right, after that post he showed me how to admin the room and it changed my whole opinion. We also asked everyone about the closed /open issue and the consensus from the users was "open" Shortly after that we had a discussion on room rating and General was chosen. After some people expressed dislike we changed it to "R" The room has functioned very well as such. Experience has shown us that you just cannot please everyone, and if you want exclusive, open your own chat/music room.