I've replaced most of my live music with recording. I love the process where I can control everything.

A year ago I quit two good working bands due to hypertension, tinnitus, and just generally feeling my age. Load in and load out at gigs was wearing me down, never mind the actual performing and pathetic pay. I've also taken a hiatus from the church choir. This leaves me with my guitar/fiddle duo which only gigs infrequently, though I would welcome more.

Of course, I play music with my students daily, but it's not the same as jamming with pros.

There are lots of lapsed musicians around. They seem to enjoy the civilian (if you catch my drift) side of live music. I suspect there's also a lot of hobbies, TV, movies, social networking, sports, games, first and second jobs, and maybe partying in their lives, just like with non-musicians.