I have learned over time that there are people who I really disagree with here, and have posted stuff that I deem deeply prejudicial, yet, given more proximity and a human face in front of me, I might very well share a beer with, after a minor beat-down.

What it comes down to for me in the end is does the person have a point to their argument that references items outside themselves? Can they establish a relationship to reality (or something they represent as reality)?

Also, if the abuse is at least tempered by humour or specific enough to give a frame of mind beyond mere name-calling.