You're right of course Iain, there are ways of expressing yourself that upset no one.
But the point I'm trying to make is, the reason that there is a situation in NI, Israel/Palestine, cowboys/red indians , etc is that there is conflict.

you will not ever come to understand another person's view unless at some point you take on board what he is saying rather than poncing around saying - oooh that's not very nice! -if he expresses himself in language that he naturally uses, and the sheer depth of feeling inherent - which has its root somewhere in his/her understanding.

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