Sorch, why do you reckon it is that people get snippy when there's a death in the family? We just went through that with my stepsisters from my dad's SECOND marriage, who didn't have any rights to anything but the house, and they fairly ran my dad's 3rd wife out of it, even though he had made provisions for her to live there as long as she wanted. I feel like this was disrespectful to my father, who had taken care of Their Mother as she lay dying of cancer many years ago. This is another thing I will never understand...