I'm very sorry for the loss of your dad Steve.
It sounds as if you've made a good choice of residential home for your mum.
I too watched the commemoration on TV. I thought both Peter Dawson and especially Bryn Terfel were superb, and I too shed a few tears at Amazing Grace.
Today they will ring the changes on the bells in our church tower at 11 o'clock.
And pray for Peace and the end of all War.