Don't scare yourself, Michelle! I can see how stressful his prolonged recovery is, and patience is all I can counsel, but it is the best thing right now. You like the medical team, this is their job, and they'll send him home to you soon.

I understand how your teamwork is vital - even though my children's father and I divorced nearly 20 years ago, we're still a team when it comes to supporting the kids and helping each other. I think it's because of the friendship that transcends everything else. Your friend is ill and you miss him.

The old saying "when it rains, it pours" seems to be in effect - the hospital, the car, the washer. (When my washer starts doing the old "tilt" of uneven loads, after I've washed some large off-balanced thing, I do several small well-distributed loads and that seems to re-calibrate it's little computer brain.)

Good luck, and take naps when you can, even at the hospital.