To open another item of contention, when singing a song related to gender, should the gender be changed to suit the singer of the song? For example, I've heard the Beatles "This Boy" being sung by a female as "This Girl". It just didn't sound right. She'd been better just singing "this boy" or better still, chosen another song. The Teddy Bears "To know him is to love him" is one song that is easily adaptable by changing "him" to "you". Imo, it's one of the few 'gender' songs where a change works (albeit it's to the second person).