If language gets in the way of communication instead of aiding it, it's not good.

We're less willing to give people the benefit of the doubt. I'll skip over things that don't seem right, unless the person uses them consistently.

I have a friend who's trans, and I still mess up and use the wrong pronouns. He knows what's in my heart, though. We don't know what's in people's hearts, but it makes more sense to let what could be mistakes slide.

I prefer focusing on the person, not the disability (or whateveryoucallit), and just say "they use a wheel chair" for identification purposes. I aim to leave the labels to other people.