Nigel - that's why I do read all PMs..

I'll give 'em the benefit of the doubt before reading...

After starting this thread, my PM count has gone up one to 666..
sorry typo.. 66

But it's not from who I thought it might be.
It's actually a mudcatter I have a lot of respect for.
So I'm taking time to think up a considered reply..

But that's one of the reasons I get uncomfortable with PMs.
They can be personal, and take a bit too much time and thought, and sometimes emotions,
to respond to properly.
Same as why I usually procrastinate replying to personal emails..

These serious PMs can turn up out of the blue and require personal engagement,
usually at a time I'd rather not have that bother.

It's much less taxing just firing off short sarcastic quips on threads;
or semi seriously engaging in robust thread battles,
while I'm bored doing chores and cooking meals....