Morticia, i too, grieved when hearing of the Lady's death. (got it sooner, i'm in the states) But the rules are good ones. I got alot of them from my Grandmother, before she sunk into senility. Grandma never talked about how the bills were paid on time, how clean the house was, or if her daughter got straight A's in school. She DID talk about traveling the world with her globetrotting contractor husband, living in East Africa for 2 years, Arabia for 1 year, amid other places. She spoke of food, and people and love. When her health declined, she could warm her hands and heart over her memories. Love often, and laugh now. You may never have another chance. Or, conversly, you might be able to do it twice as much, if you start NOW.