Just to be a bit fussy here. It's not a flame. To be a flame you have to be lashing out at someone.

If they are fakes I think they fall into the class of a troll, fishing for a reaction. If they are for real there are places on the internet where there are a lot more experienced music teachers where the questions should be asked. These questions bother me because I find the idea of someone so ignorant of any music teaching methods actually trying to teach frightening. Unfortunatley when I hear people's stories about teachers & think of my own experience it is possible to take them as real. The real clue is that we're getting this pattern and no general explanation of the realy teaching situation.

Callie & guest (if you're for real) I recommend you try rec.music.makers.choral. That group is mainly music educators. Tell them the overall situation you are in & if they can't help you they can probably point you to a group that can.