I think that it's a personal critique that may not totally correct in that it's always a matter of opinion. I have observed first hand of their relationship and that Pete had complete respect for Toshi's ideas. She would denigrate anyone who attains a "star" position in the entertainment field. She didn't like it if Pete evinced any evidence about "being too big for his britches" (trope mine not Toshi's).

The interesting thing about Jimmy Durante is when I attended his radio program in the Fifties at NBC. He was the only entertainer that I knew of from attending many of the radio broadcasts that would come out and converse pleasantly with the audience standing in line asking about them in an interested manner. He was truly a man of the people.

I attended Toshi's memorial service in New York City. A bone of contention was that Pete was on the road quite a bit leaving Toshi to raise the children a lot by herself. It's not clear to me that they agreed or disagreed with this arrangement.

Toshi was a female curmudgeon. She, however, was a truthful person with great
integrity. She showed compassion when it was needed.